have you ever felt that maybe the tears that you shed are not justified? and how does it feel after all the day of crying that you could have done much better with your day? if you have not experienced this let me tells you it feels sick and more sick by each passing second, and if you have experienced it then maybe you could better identify with what i am about to write. most of the pain and trouble , i feel , resides inside us. and its not caused by others or what others say to us but how we reflect on things. many times you start seeing and feeling things negatively. you feel that what every one is saying is just not in good spirit. that's when you should really get a grip. just exactly when we feel that there is not enough love around we must realise that we are not passing enough of it to the others. well what works for me then is to realise that firstly i m not a total goner and i still have goodness in me and i can set it right. stop thinking about stuff that you cant control. when you don't realise whose fault it is just never blame others. and also don't ever ever be over critical of yourself. always realise that there will be times when i will feel negatively about others but i will never want to hurt anyone. give yourself space. you are trying to change your frame of mind its a big deal. just congratulate yourself for trying and have faith on yourself. life is shining for you, but no amount of light will be enough if you always keep comparing it with the glitterati around you. and love , its all around you and when you love people you will get it back. TRUST ME!!
what defines success. or better ask what defines success for you. it is measured by the criteriathat society subjects it to. or is it what you feel about it. i heard a well noted television personality once mentioned how she "failed" several times before she actually became what she is. one must not let something external define you in such a way that it affects your being and your life and for you its worthiness depends on it. one never knows what life has to offer better keep open hands and an open mind. define your our success.
the name needs no introduction. ramu is a film maker with a difference. and the difference lies not just in the concept of his films but also in the drama he creates when he is off his director's chair. his personal life, his gutsy and somewhat ridiculous approach towards film making however is least of my concern. but what really bugs me to shunt him is his recent attempt to sabotage the national anthem.
every society has its challenges. India too undoubtedly needs reform. however their are million other respectable ways of bringing out the discontentment. no one can be given the liberty to tamper with the national anthem. and more so using it as background music for one's film is just unacceptable.
what is more disturbing is that the youth actually finds it as a cool means of self expression. tune in to M TV and we find youngsters justifying ramu's antics in the name of " bringing out the reality". the reality and rather a harsh one is that there is a part of the urban Indian - phoren infatuated youth that finds India below its standards. these crib-a-lots consider anyone who says i respect my India for what it is a psycho.
always remember CHANGE CAN ONLY BE BOUGHT ABOUT WHEN WE NOT JUST SEE WHAT WE DON'T HAVE BUT ALSO RESPECT WHAT WE HAVE. IF YOU DO NOT RESPECT YOUR NATIONAL SYMBOLS YOU DO NOT RESPECT YOUR NATION. OUR MOTHERLAND IS OUR PLACE UNDER THE SUN. WHERE NO ONE CAN SPIT AT US BECAUSE OF OUR COLOR. AMERICA WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR AMERICA AND INDIA WILL ALWAYS BE OUR INDIA.
but of course Ramu doesn't want to change any thing. he is just doing all this drama for commercial reasons and tries to play with the discontentment amongst the people. we just don't see it.
i am an avid believer in destiny. though not a very optimistic one. i use it as a means to vent my frustration about the seemingly unexplainable ups and downs in life. there is no better way of passing the burden when you just don't understand why u are being put through the tough times.
however it seems so strange that destiny and all associated so called "intellectual" bakwas comes to our mind only when we are in our "down" phase. happy times never generate such insight in the mind. this simply means that we humans are more or less fluctuating in our opinion towards life.
reacently sitting with a group of girlfriends someone raised the topic of what we wish to have in our lives. considering we are a group of 20 somethings this topic seemed apt. and the answer was somewhat common. we all wanted a handsome and well off guy to get hitched, a good career and yes few babies to make a complete picture. and ..... for some it just went on and on from the kind of salary to the kind of husband and here as we all know the list of must haves was endless.
but on of my friend had it put very simply for her. she just wanted to be happy. considering what she has been through recently( details cant be mentioned for personal reasons) it seemed like a tough call and the only thing important in life.
and a few months back that was the only thing important for me too.actually it still is.
people with similar losses in life have similar cravings. though yes some recover quickly some take their own time.
but we all do recover, yes provided destiny wills us to
check out the lyrics of my favourite enrique song: since the beginning of time, since it started to rain, since i heard you laugh since i felt your pain, i have always loved you, there has never been anyone else, i knew you before i knew myself. years go by in a matter of days as though we go our separate ways, you walked away i should have have held you, would you have stayed for me to tell you i have always loved you!!